I want to start today’s episode by getting you to think about the last time you had a really crappy sales experience.
Maybe it was that pushy phone call you couldn’t get off.
Or that awkward DMs conversation where someone pitched to you two minutes after following you.
Or maybe it was something more subtle — that feeling that someone wasn’t really listening, they were just waiting for their turn to convince you.
(pause)
How did it feel in your body?
Tense? Defensive? A bit shut down?
That’s the thing about sales — most of us have felt what it’s like to be sold to, and it’s not great.
So it’s no wonder that when it comes time for you to sell your own offer, something in you hesitates.
You don’t want to be that person.
(slightly softer tone)
And yet — you know your offer helps people. You’ve seen the results.
But the moment you go to talk about it, you can feel your energy shift.
You start second-guessing your words, wondering, “Am I coming across too pushy?” or “What if they think I’m just trying to sell them something?”
(beat)
If that sounds familiar, you’re not alone.
So many service-based business owners feel that same resistance — not because they don’t believe in what they do, but because they’ve confused selling with persuading.
(slight lift in tone, warm conviction)
And here’s what I believe: selling isn’t about convincing someone to say yes.
It’s about helping the right people make the right decision — whether that decision is to work with you or not.
That’s what we’re unpacking in today’s episode — how to approach selling in a way that feels grounded, honest, and human.
2️⃣ Show Intro
Hey, I’m Esther Gretton, and this is Get Clear and Grow.
This podcast is for service-based business owners who want to grow in a way that’s both profitable and fulfilling — where you earn well and feel well.
Because the truth is, growing your business shouldn’t feel like pushing a boulder uphill.
Around here, it’s not about hustling harder or chasing every opportunity.
It’s about creating clarity and structure in your business — clear offers, great-fit clients, and a simple way to market, sell, and deliver your services in a way that actually works for you.
So, if you’ve ever found yourself shying away from selling because it feels awkward or “icky,” this episode will help you reframe that completely.
3️⃣ Call Out the Current Reality
Let’s be real — most people don’t like selling.
You’ve probably said something like, “I love helping people, but I hate selling myself.”
Maybe you’re someone who thrives when you’re in the work — you love client delivery, creating results, supporting transformation.
But when it comes to selling that work? You suddenly freeze.
You might find yourself over-giving in your content, hoping people will just “get it” without you having to actually sell.
Or maybe you avoid following up because you don’t want to seem desperate.
And then you see those people online — you know the ones — confidently talking about their offers like it’s second nature.
And you think, “I wish I could do that. But I just don’t want to sound pushy.”
(gentle reassurance)
If that’s you, lean in.
Because that discomfort around selling isn’t about your ability — it’s about what you’ve been taught to believe about what selling actually is.
4️⃣ Reframe / Core Belief Shift
Here’s what I’ve learned over more than a decade in business development and coaching:
Selling isn’t about convincing someone.
It’s not about closing.
It’s not even about getting someone to say yes.
It’s about connection.
It’s about understanding where someone’s at, what they need, and helping them make the right decision for them.
Because when you know who your great-fit client is — and you have an offer that genuinely meets their needs — selling becomes an act of service, not persuasion.
And that’s what I mean when I say, “Selling is helping the right people make the right decision.”
5️⃣ Bridge / Story
I’ve actually always been one of those rare people who enjoys sales conversations.
Now, marketing? That’s something I’ve had to work on over the years.
But selling — I’ve always loved.
(reflective, conversational tone)
And I remember going for walks, thinking, why do I love selling so much more than marketing?
And I realised — it’s because sales conversations are deeply human.
You’re one-on-one, connecting with someone, hearing where they’re at, what they want, what’s not working, and what a good outcome would look like for them.
And when I can see that my offer can truly help them — I share it confidently, because I know it’s the right fit.
But here’s the thing — if it’s not the right fit, I’ll say that too.
Because that’s what integrity in sales looks like.
(slight pause)
Let me tell you a quick story.
When I came back from living in London years ago, I got a role selling multi–six-figure contracts.
I wanted to make an impact quickly, so I invested in a sales coach — out of my own pocket.
And through that work, I smashed my targets — I think it was about 130% of my sales budget in my first year — and earned a trip to Hawaii.
But what made the difference wasn’t aggressive selling.
It was connection. Listening. Empathy.
And later, I actually went on to work for that same sales coach, which was such a full-circle moment.
Over the years, whether I’ve been selling corporate contracts or coaching programs, the principle has always been the same:
When you genuinely connect, when you truly listen, and when your offer is the right fit, the “sale” becomes a natural next step — not a performance.
6️⃣ Main Teaching / Insight
So let’s break down what makes selling feel natural instead of nerve-wracking.
There are three things that shift how you sell:
1️⃣ Connection over convincing.
When you go into a conversation with curiosity and presence instead of pressure, everything changes.
Ask questions. Listen deeply. Let them speak more than you.
You’re not there to talk them into something — you’re there to understand them.
2️⃣ Fit over forcing.
If you’ve done the work to attract great-fit clients — people who align with your offer, values, and way of working — then selling is just about showing them how your offer meets their needs.
And if it doesn’t, you can lovingly guide them elsewhere.
That’s leadership. That’s integrity.
3️⃣ Clarity creates confidence.
When you’re clear on your offer, your process, and your value, you don’t need to “sell” hard.
You’re simply helping someone see how your solution fits their situation.
And the truth is, people can feel when you’re trying to sell them — but they can also feel when you’re genuinely trying to help them.
That’s why I say: selling done well is one of the most generous things you can do.
7️⃣ Outcome / Vision Paint
When you approach selling this way, business feels lighter.
You stop dreading sales calls and start looking forward to them.
You feel grounded, confident, and connected.
You stop pushing your offers — and start inviting the right people into them.
Because when selling feels aligned, it no longer drains you — it energises you.
You’re helping people make decisions that move them forward, and that’s deeply fulfilling.
8️⃣ Call to Action
If you’ve been listening and thinking, yes — that’s exactly what I want,
you’re going to love my upcoming live webinar called From Scattered to Structured.
In it, I’ll walk you through how to create consistent months and sustainable growth — without adding more to your plate.
We’ll unpack my CLEAR Business Growth Framework™,
and I’ll show you how to build the systems and clarity that support your marketing, sales, and delivery —
so your business runs smoothly end-to-end.
It’s free, it’s practical, and you can register now at esthergretton.com/masterclass
or by clicking the link in the show notes.
Because selling gets easier when your whole business is set up with clarity and structure —
and that’s exactly what we’ll create together.
9️⃣ Next Episode Tease / Wrap-Up
Alright, my friend — that’s it for today.
Next week, we’re diving into The One Thing You Must Fix Before You Can Create Consistent Months in Your Business.
It ties beautifully into what we’ve talked about today, so make sure you don’t miss it.
Have a great week — and remember, selling isn’t about persuading.
It’s about helping the right people make the right decision
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